How to become a more self-aware person. Do you want to be happier, have more influence, be a better decision-maker, and be a more effective leader? Self-awareness, then, is the most important muscle you need to develop. It's what will keep you on target to be the best version of yourself and the best leader you can be.
Psychologists Shelley Duval and Robert Wicklund proposed this definition:. If you're highly self-aware, you can objectively evaluate yourself, manage your emotions, align your behavior with your values , and understand correctly how others perceive you. Put simply, those who are highly self-aware can interpret their actions, feelings, and thoughts objectively.
Developing self-awareness is important because it allows leaders to assess their growth and effectiveness and change course when necessary. Public self-awareness: Being aware of how we can appear to others.
Because of this consciousness, we are more likely to adhere to social norms and behave in ways that are socially acceptable. While there are benefits to this type of awareness, there is also the danger of tipping into self-consciousness. Those who are especially high in this trait may spend too much time worrying about what others think of them. Those who have private self-awareness are introspective , approaching their feelings and reactions with curiosity.
For example, you may notice yourself tensing up as you are preparing for an important meeting. Noticing the physical sensations and correctly attributing them to your anxiety about the meeting would be an example of private self-awareness. When self-awareness tips into self-consciousness, we are reluctant to share certain aspects of ourselves. We develop a persona that lacks authenticity.
The Eurich group has researched the nature of self-awareness. Their research indicates that when we look inward, we can clarify our values, thoughts, feelings, behaviors, strengths, and weaknesses. We are able to recognize the effect that we have on others. Eurich's research finds that people with self-awareness are happier and have better relationships.
They also experience a sense of personal and social control as well as higher job satisfaction. When we look outward, we understand how people view us. People who are aware of how people see them are more likely to be empathetic to people with different perspectives. Leaders whose self-perception matches others' perceptions are more likely to empower, include, and recognize others. Self-awareness is a staple in contemporary leadership jargon. Although many leaders will brag about how self-aware they are, only 10 to 15 percent of the population fit the criteria.
Many of us grew up with the message that you should not show your emotions, so we attempt to ignore or suppress them. With negative emotions, that doesn't go very well for us. We either internalize them resulting in anger, resentment, depression, and resignation or we externalize them and blame, discount, or bully others.
Lack of self-awareness can be a significant handicap in leadership. A study conducted by Adam D. Galinsky and colleagues at Northwestern's Kellogg School of Management found that often, as executives climb the corporate ladder, they become more self-assured and confident. On the downside, they tend to become more self-absorbed and less likely to consider the perspectives of others. In a separate study, Canadian researchers looked at brain activity in people who are in positions of power.
They found physiological evidence to conclude that as power increases, the ability to empathize with others decreases. They become less able to consider the needs and perspectives of others. Fundamentally these leaders don't think they need to change and instead require change from everyone else.
Don't despair if you don't make the percent self-awareness cut. If you want to know how self-aware you are, the iNLP Center has 12 multiple-choice questions that will tell you the level of your self-awareness and what you can do to improve it.
The assessment is research-based and developed by Mike Bundrant, neuro-linguistic trainer and life coach. It measures your answers across six broad categories with a total of 24 strengths. Take the assessment, and you'll generate a report identifying your top 5 strengths and how to begin to optimize them.
Awareness has been highlighted by many as a key indicator of success in a range of performance environments. It is arguably the most important ingredient for belief as every other skill, quality and task you have and undertake can be traced back to awareness.
Being aware will give you an insight into your beliefs and whether they are positive or holding you back. If you are aware then this will give you knowledge and if you have knowledge then you know what you need to do to and the direction you need to go to make changes to improve and be successful. It will make you seek out more information on the beliefs that are holding you back and how to change them.
It will give you the information for next action thinking whereby you are aware of the very next thing you need to do to move forward. For example if you are aware that you struggle to get up early to go to the gym then this may point to having an inhibiting belief there are lots of possibilities and this is just one example that you think you may not be good enough to compete at the level you are playing at and so are shying away from going to the gym which will reinforce this belief.
If you are aware then this can then be switched and used as a positive. As you are aware of this belief you could ask a team mate to partner up with you as a gym buddy because the team mate will push you to do the work and give you feedback and encouragement to start to give reference points See previous articles I have written in the June and July issues.
Awareness allows you to become proactive rather than reactive but you need to be specific, very specific to really break down and peel away the layers to get the beliefs that are influencing the behaviours you are showing.
This is hard work and you need to assign time to constantly look at what you do and break this down, but improved awareness have a dramatic and positive effect.
Awareness is a really important part of planning and developing training programmes. There are just 3 elements you need to be aware of and understand and everything I mean everything! If you are aware of just these 3 elements you will gain massive amount information that you can then use to improve by using next action thinking but you need to be specific and work to peel away the layers to really get to the belief.
This idea was initially written about by Sun Tzi in the Art of War around BC and is still used extensively in business, sport and the military today. Sometimes I wonder what other people think when I talk about awareness.
And this is one of the biggest reasons why I now put so much energy into sharing practical awareness training with everyday people. The folks I meet who really see why focusing on awareness is so important are the parents who want their kids to grow up having the kind of education they need to live the most fulfilling life. As people become more aware.. The sparks light up, curiosity takes hold and parents, children, teens, adults become passionate life-long learners.
We all live in this world together and together we can make it a great place for everyone to live in.
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